For the last few years I have struggled with the backlash of being in an abusive relationship. I've had very low points but I've also had high points. I overcame this and I am a fighter. However, if it weren't for the grace of God I don't know that I would be where I  am today. I've struggled with depression and anxiety because someone made me believe that I was worthless, that I was unwanted and that no one would want me.I don't trust people easily and I don't open up much. However, this is far from the truth. Thankfully I know that I am beautifully and wonderfully made and I have so much value thanks to God. That's not to say that I instantly realized this however, I don't think I fully comprehended that that guy's words were so false and that I did have so much value and I am loved so much more than I can ever imagine until this. I believe that we go through trials for a reason and I believe God does not give us more than we can handle.  I firmly believe that if I had not endured all the pain I did I wouldn't have such a heart for helping others. Hard times ultimately change us, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Without God in my life I honestly don't know where my life would've ended up after getting out of that relationship. I think the people who have hurt the most are usually the ones who want to help the most. I never want anyone to feel as badly as I felt or experience the pain I have felt. God puts people in our lives for a reason some people to teach us lessons and some people to help us. I'm so blessed to have a friend who understands and is constantly there whenever I have a breakdown even over the stupidest thing. At the end of the day I am not inadequate and I am not worthless. Although I do still feel like I am these things at times I do at least come to realize that I am not.  If a boyfriend(or girlfriend)  controls you and tries to dictate your life they are NOT worth it. It's not worth changing your career or sitting in bed crying because of cruel things that have been said to you. Even if you love them and think they will change they probably won't. You deserve to be happy and deserve to be treated right. Looks aren't everything, personality play such a big role. If a person has a pretty face but an awful heart but doesn't treat you right you might want to look elsewhere. If they aren't the hottest person on the planet but have a good heart and treat you right, give them a chance! One day our looks will fade and all that we will have left is the way you treat people.  I think personality is much more important than looks. How you treat a person is a good example of character. So be kind to each other, your actions and words affect others.

“More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.” - Romans 5:3-5